Hey girls! For the month of February, we’ve decided to write a 4-part series on the topic of love and romance. Whether you’re single, in a dating relationship, or married, this series is for you! Come along as we discover God’s design for romance, love, and relationships.
“I’m going on my first date!” One of my friends shared the news as she squealed with excitement. She told me about how great the guy was and what outfit she was planning to wear to this thrilling occasion.
It was a time when many of my friends were entering their first romantic relationships. As for me, well, I was still single and wasn’t planning on getting a boyfriend anytime soon.
I’ve read plenty of books and articles on living my single years well and using this time to focus on God’s plan for my life, but my focus doesn’t always stay there.
I have a great desire to meet a great guy and get married someday, but right now, as a single young woman, it can be hard to wait in God’s timing, especially when ‘everyone else’ is dating and spending time with their boyfriends.
It’s clear that God gave us the desire for a beautiful marriage, but what should we do with it in the meantime? How can we find contentment as Christian single girls?
1. Realize That Singleness Isn’t a Bad Thing
Singleness if often viewed as a ‘waiting room’ for marriage; as if marriage is the ultimate goal of life. If you don’t have a boyfriend, it’s looked down upon and criticized.
One thing that needs to be addressed right away is that marriage is not the end goal of life. It’s a beautiful relationship that many girls look forward to, but the reason we’re here is not to find a guy and get married.
In order to find contentment in our single years, we must first realize that singleness isn’t a bad thing. In fact, during this season of life, God can do amazing things through us! It’s an opportunity to grow and strengthen our character; a time to put our focus on deepening our relationship with Christ and serving others.
Counting our single years as a blessing instead of a punishment or burden makes all the difference!
2. Invest in Your Family and Girlfriends
The season of singleness is a perfect time to invest in your relationships with family and your girlfriends!
While you’re not worried about going out with your boyfriend or finding ways to make him happy, you can take advantage of the opportunities to grow closer to your parents, siblings, and friends.
Practice things like kindness and patience (which are qualities needed in marriage as well) with the people in your household. Start a Bible study group for young women. Go out and spend time with your family. Have a girls’ night and have some fun!
There are tons of ways to use this time in your life to grow closer the people around you. If it’s God’s will that you get married someday, He will open the doors that lead to that.
You don’t have to worry about finding a guy while you’re still young. Use this time to minister, develop Christ-like qualities, and trust in God’s timing.
3. Choose Joy
Just because you’re not in a romantic relationship doesn’t mean you have to mope around and throw a pity party. Choose to embrace joy and let it overflow to others.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, ” For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:”
It may not be time for you to start a relationship, but don’t let that be a reason to walk around and pout. No matter season we’re in, we can find God’s beauty in our daily lives. Keep your eyes open to the wonders of Christ and let your life be filled with overwhelming joy!
Contentment isn’t found in a boyfriend, but in Christ!
Now, don’t be going around and ignoring all of the guys in your life. We are all brothers and sisters in Christ and should treat the young men around us as such. Be loving and genuine. Share your reason for joy with others!
I’ve seen my friends get into romantic relationships and, yes, I am still single, but that’s not a bad thing! We, as Christian single girls, can choose to look at this season as a blessing. .
Finding contentment doesn’t have to be as hard as people think. The key to being grateful is the joy of living for Christ!
Are you, or someone you know, a single girl struggling to find contentment?
What are some ways that you can embrace the season of singleness?
How can you share the overwhelming joy of Christ with other young women? Feel free to use any of my ideas!
Hey Girls! It’s such a blessing that we can encourage you in your walk with Christ, however, we are not licensed counselors and cannot offer professional advice. If you are seeking help and counsel, we strongly encourage you to talk to a trusted adult such as your parents, a godly woman, or a pastor. They can better guide you, as they are able to know the details of your situation.
*All Scripture verses were taken from the English Standard Version*