Becoming a Woman With a Servant’s Heart

You’ve heard the sayings.

“If you don’t have something nice to say, then don’t say anything at all.”
“Treat others as you would like to be treated.”
“When you help others, only do enough to get by.”

Wait! That’s not how the last one goes. Or is it?

Helping others with a cheerful heart isn’t a new concept. In fact, it’s one of the first things that we teach young children. Yet, as simple as it may be, we, as young women, often put it aside in our own lives.

We’re asked to do small chores like taking out the trash or doing the dishes, but then find ourselves doing them half-heartedly. We offer to help, but really don’t want to all that much.

When we’re told to help out cheerfully, we come back with a remark like, “It doesn’t matter what kind of attitude I have. It got done, didn’t it?” Even if we don’t say it out loud, most of us think that way sometimes.

Does it have to be that way? Think about what would happen if young women, across the world, changed their attitude. Think about what would happen if you and me decided to intentionally serve and help others because we want to.

Throughout the Bible, it’s shown that a true leader is a servant. A leader is someone who chooses to focus on others rather than herself/himself. The greatest and most humble leader of all, Jesus Christ, lived His entire life serving those around Him.

Let’s look at a few passages of Scripture that will show us what it means to become a woman with a servant’s heart.

Galatians 5:13 says, “For you were called to freedom, brothers [and sisters]. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.”

God created each one of us with free-will. Sadly, many people use that freedom to hurt the people around them. However, the Lord wants us to use our freedom to lovingly serve one another. Everyday we make choices. Wouldn’t be amazing if we all decided to choose to reflect Christ’s love?

Colossians 3:23,24 says, “Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.”

We are not here to gain the approval of others. I know many girls who find their worth and value in what people think of them. The first problem with that is that people’s opinions of us change all of the time and we will never find lasting worth unless we find it in Christ. The second problem is that, when we focus on pleasing other people, our focus comes off of Christ.

Instead of looking for ways to share God’s love, we’re looking for ways to make ourselves more like-able or successful. Though there’s certainly nothing wrong with strengthening our character and doing our best, it can become a problem is we’re only doing things for the approval of others. Colossians 3:23,24 reminds us that we’re not living for others, but for God.

Philippians 2:5-8 says, “Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.”

When Jesus lived on this earth, He never focused on himself. Though He is God, He came to this world as a man. He didn’t come to show off or become popular and successful. He came to serve and love others. Even to the point of dying on a cross for you and me.

Isn’t it so great that we serve a God who puts others before Himself? Just as He has shown love to us, He has given us the wonderful opportunity to take that love and share it with the people around us.

What will you decide?

This week, let’s focus on serving others. Taking it one day at a time, let’s be on the lookout for ways to share Christ’s love through cheerfully helping out. Jesus was the ultimate servant and example.

I want to become a young woman with a servant’s heart. Do you?


Hey Girls! It’s such a blessing that we can encourage you in your walk with Christ, however, we are not licensed counselors and cannot offer professional advice. If you are seeking help and counsel, we strongly encourage you to talk to a trusted adult such as your parents, a godly woman, or a pastor. They can better guide you, as they are able to know the details of your situation. 

*All Scripture verses were taken from the English Standard Version*